First Date Advice for Men

What to do on a first date?

(If you don't know each other well)

You asked that hotty out. Well done. She said yes. Unbelievable, now your flying high. And then it happens, those nagging question starts: How do I wow her? For the first date, a man with a plan is always attractive. So here are some tips (from real women who have gone on real dates).

Make it public.

• Don't invite her to come sit on your couch, instead invite her to look at couch stores.
• Exclusive hikes to "special" spots should be saved for later in the possible relationship.
• Safety, she doesn't know you well, you don't know her well.
• So plan it in a place with foot traffic.

Make it casual.

• Don't pay for an expensive meal, pay for her cup of coffee. 
• This way if either of you aren't feeling it, you don't need to sit through two more courses.

Make it Creative.

• The coffee shop thing is done on a regular basis, and can lead to both sitting there staring at each other. 
• Walk around a local rose garden (with your coffee), 
• Walk around the mall looking for the worst Christmas Gift anyone could ever give (with your ice-cream cone), 
• Go to the humane society and pet puppies and (get frozen yogurt after if it goes well). 
• Go fly a kite in a park.

Make Sure You're Both Prepared.

• Think it through
• Get the tickets early, 
• Make reservations, 
• Figure out parking,
• And tell her so she can meet you there
• You each having your own car, lowers awkward endings, and increases safety for her (or you if she's crazy).
• Look at a few Yelp reviews

Save the Surprises for Later

• Going to the beach, going to the paintball palace, going to walk all around the fair? 
• If you show up and she's in heels its going to be a tough day.
• If you don't know her well, surprise first dates are a bad option,
• Save the surprises after you know each other really well.
• Safety wise she has tell at least one person where she's going. 
• Let her know if she needs a sweatshirt, flats, hiking gear, sunscreen and a towel. 
• Plus, think ahead bring these types of things yourself.
• Give a girl warning, to avoid wardrobe misery. 

Make it Conversational.

• Find out about her.
• It sounds hard, but it's easy. 
• Ask her questions. 
• not yes or no ones but ones that...
• Ask about her life, 
• What she loves, 
• What she dislikes, 
• What's her favorite kind of pickle and why?
• If she were take over the world how she would go about doing it? 
• What would be her plan if there was a nuclear Holocaust?
• Where would she time travel to?
• Would she use  a Tardis or a Delorean?

But...

Put the Phone Away

• She is there.
• Unless it's an emergency or for one quick thing,
• Candy Crush can wait a couple hours.

Don't Talk About Money

• She doesn't need to know how broke you are or how rich you are
• This is only date one, there are so many things to learn about each other,
• Keep the topic of money for later
• She doesn't need to know how much that recent parking ticket set you back
• If you're low on money, plan a low cost date and add your own spin on it
• Throw pennies into a fountain,
• Feed the ducks a loaf of stale bread
• Watch the sunset
• Make wishes on dandelions 

Listen To Her Answers.

• It's impressive when the guy remembers something she said from date one, when on date two.
• Did the date go well? 
• Yes, then jot down a couple things in a notebook after the date, or in your smart phone.

Finally...

If You Like Her

Follow Up

• If the date went well contact her that night (to make sure she got home safely, or to tell her you got home safely). 
• Then contact her in the next couple days and invite her to join you with a plan for date two.