Reasons I've Been Single

Reasons That Have Lead to Me Being Single

There is nothing wrong with being single. Just looking at some of the reasons that has led to my singleness over the years.

1. I chose to be.
1.  Having someone sounded great til someone actually showed me some genuine interest and my insides start to quake, and it felt like someone shut off my air supply. 
2. And I ran.
2. I didn't give off positive signals for years. 
1. When I was in a room full of people I normally talked to people but not guys. I thought about how much I would prefer to be home with my fuzzy socks
2. I felt awkward if a guy talked to me and probably was awkward
1. but I knew my fuzzy socks wouldn't care
3. "The one that got away" excuse. 
1. That person I was in “love” with that every person paled to in comparison. There are reasons I was not actually with that person but I held on to the fantasy. 
2. No real person could compete. 
3. I was essentially choosing to be single, and using that as my excuse. 
4. Note: When I asked, God helped me let go of said illusion.
4. I dated something instead of someone. 
1. In college I dated Inter Varsity Christian Fellowship. 
1. I had an event four nights out of the week. 
2. My social world revolved around my leadership duties, and it helped me remain completely single.
5. I'm not willing to settle for less. 
1. Which is great as long as it hasn't led to a quest for the perfect spouse, because everyone fails at that quest. Everyone.
2. On the other hand, I'm sure, settling “just to have somebody” can also be problematic.
6. Insecurities. 
1. I've had moments of “I can't believe this guy is interested in me! Quick where's that hole in the sand?!” 
2. These moments have lead to regret. 
3. At that time if I had received my value from God I would've smiled and leaned into the possibility with those guys.
7. He wasn't the one. 
1.  Sometimes he just wasn't the one for me and that was okay.
2. Or I wasn't the one for him, and that was okay.
8. Timing. 
1. My dad stresses that if he met my mom sooner they would've never ended up together. 
1. My mom is super into sports my dad is not, and she wouldn't have dated someone who didn't care about sports earlier in her dating career. 
2. Timing: we have no control over it, and it's the most frustrating part. 
3. We have to be ready to date, and so does the other person.
9. My future spouse might be in a dead end relationship right now, or we may not be living in the same city yet, or maybe he's batman and has a city to save before he's ready for a relationship. 
1. Which means: 
1. I need to move to Gotham City
2.  and Again timing.
10. And the final reason I think I'm single: My future spouse is praying like crazy that his future wife has as little relationship baggage as possible.
1. I just have to say, if you're the one praying that: hurry up and get here. :)